/ + 10 things you should know about guys pt 1

- meh its about 2:20 am and i really cant sleep right now. Had a big ass family party on a tuesday that went until 1 and have been up ever since. I dunno where i got this idea to write this post, but for awhile now, i've been approached by several people about relationship problems and the most popular question I get is about why guys do the things they do in a relationship. So, with that being said, im going to share with you all the 10 things I think, you should know about guys before heading into a relationship, or even if your in one.

1. Guys like the attention just as much as girls do.
-Don't even lie guys, you know this is true. If a girl ignores a guy or doesnt have the same focus a girl does on other things, your man will get extremely jealous and hide his emotions deep within. Not like its a bad thing, but guys liek the same attention they give to girls. If not, its strokes a mans ego and its never a way to win a mans heart. So ladies, give a little extra to your man, they need it, or expect a loong fight that will go on for weeks.

2. Guys like to hide their emotions.
-Now this is actually quite complex. Don't confuse this with men not liking to talk alot about themselves, cuz they do. But when it comes to personal feelings and emotions, guys do not like to share that alot - it makes them feel vulnerable. Its hard to elaborate on this issue because, I myself, dont know even know why I don't like to talk about my feelings. Maybe its because we liek to keep a strong front and we often feel liek we dont want ppl to know soo much about ourselves and be "in" our lives. We have insecurities about the way we feel, so we often shun it down and never open it up. And ladies we all know you want to be "in" our lives, but there are things better left unsaid.

3. About 90% of the time, guys will never understand a woman's problem.
-Ever been in a situation where you've said, "OH your soo stupid, you don't understand me at all..." well anywhere along the lines of that. Well thats because, we don't. We'll pretend liek we do but we'll end up not having the attention span to focus on that. Sorry ladies, no matter how hard you try, us guys, don't have a thick and strong mind powerful enough to understand your absurd problems and issues, we'll occasionally nod and agree with you to make you feel better, and then quickly forget everything that you've talked about - it'll slip our minds very fast. If not the nodding and agreeing, then look forward to us making jokes about it and being cynical about the situation. So be aware of the problems you pore on us guys, cuz it'll all end up on us not caring (:

4. If you don't tell us Guys want you want, you will not get what you want.
-Kind of expanding on number 3, guys again may never have the attention span to know what you women need and want. If you try to hint it to us, we won't notice it; if you try to tell us a story about someone having something you want, chances are we didnt even pay attention to the story at all or we don't neccessarily care at all cuz we think it may not be important. However, in a case where you over proportionalize the situation and make it a big deal, we will get frustrated about it and think of it as a case of factor number 3 above and not care. So ladies, i'll save you some time: if you want something, be straightforward about it and say it. Dont be all like "this would be great if i had it..." or watever cuz we'll again, agree/nod with you and move on, unless otherwise said so.

5. Guys have feelings too. So don't treat us like a toy you can play with whenever, wherever.
-The title says it all, believe it or not, guys are not just made of stone and have vague emotions and personalities. Don't think that by joking around about a certain flaw or thing that we doo will hurt us, cuz it will. The result of this situation will end in two ways: a) a very nasty arguement about this that could lead to a little silent time from the both of you, or b)the guy being frustrated and pissed off about the comment, murmur about the situation, and when you ask whats wrong, you will not get an answer except for an abrupt: "NOTHING, leave me alone..."or something along the lines of that. We will act very immature and will over proportionalize the situation. Ladies you better apologize quickly or you will highly dislike dealing with what is to come next: fighting/dealing about factor #2 listed above.

read below for part 2!